Managing Your Child's Anger & Deep Emotions

On-Demand Class · Emotions & Behavior

We will explore tools that will support your child in managing their big emotions before, during and after an outburst, and guide you to think about what you can do or say (or not) when your child's behaviour triggers deep emotions in you.

Class Description

Our child’s temper often brings out big emotions is us that might make us do and say things that we regret later on. These can be words and actions such as shame, blame, criticisim, or trying to fix things that can make the situation worse. It can be really hard for both parents AND kids when a child struggles with their anger. The most important thing is to remember that your child is not having a great time either, and that they are just doing the best they can to cope and survive this difficult moment. They need you to help them by staying calm, firm, and showing them that things will be ok again. Because when we scream, threaten, or join their anger, we have lost all sense of control and have let OUR emotions take over. We have used our adult power, and not in a good way. Yelling is NOT communication – it undermines the child and can really escalate the situation In this video I will offer you some powerful tools that will help you support your child in managing their big emotions before, during & after an outburst. I will guide you think about what YOU can do (or not do) when your child’s behaviour is triggering deep emotions in you What we will explore: Why do some children get angrier than others? Why is it so hard for us to ‘be in’ their anger? What can we do before, in order to prevent or lessen the outburst? What can we do and say (or not) in the heat of the moment when our child is VERY upset? Most important, how can we move forward and re-establish the connection and harmony in the home after a battle?

Class Materials

I recommend that you have paper and pen so you can make notes when I ask you to pause the video and do an activity. Also, you can print out the PDF attached called 'Your Child's Anger Thermometer'.

Your Instructor

Mette Theilmann

Please allow me to introduce myself: I am Mette Theilmann, originally from Denmark, and an experienced and qualified life coach who specialises in Parent Coaching. I am married to an Irishman and I have three children aged 20, 22 and 24. In 1996 I started my education in psychology with the aim of studying child psychology. I was lucky enough to get a job in my second year as an assistant to the child psychology of The International School of Brussels. Here I quickly realised that it was the parents that I wanted to support. So, I finished my degree within Social Psychology and added Parenting Coaching. After having 3 children of my own I personally experienced that parenting was not as easy as I thought, and so I wanted to spend my time and energy helping other parents on the road to a calmer and more harmonious home. In 2002 my family and I moved to China where I worked for the International Clinic of Shanghai supporting parents with stress and anger issues. I also volunteered at Friends of Hope where we supported expat families with ASD children to integrate into China. In 2006 we moved to England and I went on to set up ParentingSuccess Coaching in 2009 to follow my passion for helping people with their parenting skills. I sold PS in 2014 to set up my current company Predictable Parenting. With 3 children and 18 years’ experience supporting parents, I fully understand all the challenges faced by parents today. Parents need a time-out from their busy lives to think about what they really want for their family, the changes they need to make and more importantly support with how to get there. I love seeing the benefits that parents get from developing their parenting style and the positive impact this has on their families. Bishopsgate School Egham “Mette is a wonderful presenter who clearly knows her stuff. She connects with the audience in a natural, easy going way and draws from experience gained in raising her own children. Her workshops were clearly structured, providing valuable and insightful information on raising a resilient child. I would fully recommend Mette's services and plan to use her company to run more workshops in the future.”

Degrees and Certifications

City and Guild “Working with Parents” Qualified Parent Group Leader with Webster Stratton Family, Parent & Youth Impact Coach with The Coaching Academy of London. Parent Group Leader Training programme with Family Links Hons Social Psychology Practitioner of NLP coaching

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