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    1 March, 2019 by BabySparks in Parenting

    If you’re a parent of a new baby and your relationship with your partner is off track, you’re not alone. Decades of international research show that a whopping two-thirds of couples experience relationship distress for up to three years after the birth of a baby.

    Why do two-thirds of post-baby couples experience relationships woes? And what can we learn from the other one-third about weathering the new-baby storm?

    Highlights: 

    • It’s incredibly common for couples to experience distress in their relationship after the birth of their baby. 
    • Many marriages suffer because of the weight of new responsibilities, declining intimacy, hormonal changes, lack of sleep, financial stress, and disagreements over parenting styles. 
    • Researchers found that a strong friendship is paramount to healthy marriages after the birth of a baby. 
    • Couples can nurture their friendship by practicing generosity, expressing gratitude, listening to each other, showing empathy, and making intimacy a priority. 
    • It’s also important to divide responsibilities in a fair way, remain open to each other’s opinions, and remember that you’re in this together. 

    Why do so many marriages suffer after the birth of a baby?

    Couples cite many reasons for bumps in the marital road after bringing a new baby into the mix, including these:

    • A shift from “having fun” to “managing the family”
    • A decline in intimacy
    • Arguments about dividing responsibilities
    • Irritability, or even hostility — often due to hormonal changes for the mother and lack of sleep for both
    • Financial stress, including disagreements about how to spend money
    • Disagreements about parenting style

    What can we learn from couples who remain happy after the birth of a baby?

    Research from the Gottman Institute found that couples who happily weather the new-baby storm had one key thing in common: A strong friendship, which helped them stay connected through the ups and downs of transitioning to a new family stage.

    How do these couples nurture a friendship in the days, weeks, months, and even years after the birth of a baby? By cultivating these 5 things:

    Generosity

    Whether showing affection, having a forgiving attitude, expressing appreciation, or doing small acts of service like making the other a cup of coffee, generosity in its many forms is a mainstay of happy post-baby couples.

    Interest in Each Other

    Remembering to ask personal questions about the other, and listening with interest and empathy goes a long way in generating feelings of fondness and support.

    Partnership

    They nurture a partnership by:

    • Dividing responsibilities in a way that feels fair to both
    • Taking each other’s opinions into account when making parenting decisions
    • Fostering an attitude of being in the trenches together rather than experiencing challenges alone

    A Gentle Approach to Conflict

    When conflict arises, they try to wait until they are calm to discuss it. They approach issues with willingness to hear the other’s side and find a solution they’re both comfortable with.  

    Intimacy

    Let’s face it, even when women get the green-light to have sex after giving birth, it can be hard for parents to be intimate when they’re exhausted, waiting for baby to wake up at any second, and probably have a breastmilk or formula on their shirts. Making intimacy a priority, though, by doing what they can to create romance and physical connection, is a hallmark of relationships that remain strong after baby comes along.

    The key takeaway is that during the busy baby days, small but deliberate acts of kindness and connection in a relationship have a big impact. If your marriage is suffering no matter what you try, a marriage therapist may be able to help. You can find a therapist in your area with unique knowledge about parenting-related relationship challenges here.

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